Friday, October 19, 2007
I've been a little absent the past month.

Not only on my own blog, but on others' as well. But the absent-ness doesn't stop there. I've been away from my own mind it would so seem.

I turn *gulp* 25 in 10 (11 if you're on the other side of the world right now) more days, and a lot of the last couple months has been spent wondering how I've gotten to this point in my life without being as honest with myself as I should be. And for some reason or another I've been extra homesick since coming back to school here in Australia for my 2nd semester. I thought it was something to do with having to miss Eid and my birthday this month, but maybe it's not just that.

As much as I've enjoyed my experience here in Oz, I've also come to realize that I've really let a lot of opportunities slip by me in the last couple years when it came to meeting someone to share the rest of my life with. At first I thought I was thinking about all of this because of the pressure to get married that has been ever-increasing since I turned about 20.

But then I slowly came to see that these feelings were coming from within me. Watching a lot of my friends become engaged or married from all the way over here has made me feel that I'm missing out on some part of life. I've always been one to have my head in the clouds and not really pay attention to who's going out with who(whom?), what's the latest happenings in the community and so on. I focused my energy on my family and friends, school and filled the empty spaces with books, movies, TV, and this blog.

I've always had this touch of a Peter Pan syndrome where I thought I could be a kid at heart forever even if the age number kept climbing. I figured that when it was meant to be, the right person would just come along and everything would fall into place as it should. But now, after having done some soul-searching and being more honest with friends and myself I see that I'm lonely in my heart more than anything. Yes, I do miss everyone back home, but that's an ongoing thing that I came to terms with when I moved here in May. But this feeling is of some other nature and it's now just plaguing my days it seems (as they say, ignorance is knowledge is annoying).

Since getting back to school in mid-September (around the time of my last post) I've been sick a couple times, had to set up a new apartment, get used to having an extra course on my school plate and just other small adjustments we tend to have to make in everyday life (grocery store no longer stocking Multi-Grain Cheerios...!?).

But in all honestly, I had absolutely nothing to contribute to this blog. Apathy quickly settled in and I didn't even make it to my laptop before I lost interest in even the smallest interesting incident. Every day has been more or less of a routine and a blur while I've been in this cocoon of my own thoughts.

BUT, I am happy to report that I am no longer lost in the foggy mist that is life (yuck, can't believe I wrote, let alone thought, such a line...but nothing else to replace it since it's now almost 2:00am here). I feel much happier these days and am learning AT LAST to be comfortable in my own skin. I've taken some matters into my own hands while still leaving others to God.

I'm taking dear Samosa's advice and am going to be a lot more honest and opinionated - password protected posts be damned - with others and more importantly myself.

Bring on the 25th birthday!
Anonymous Haleem said...
Good to see you back. Happy Birthday (in advance).

When is the next time you are in Toronto? I am going to come to the next blog meetup if someone invites me!

Anonymous isheeta said...
Haleem, I cannot believe we forgot to invite u!!! SO SORRY! actually, its good to hear youre interested in showing up at the next blog meetup.... because I am going to hunt you down till u show up!!! It would really be nice to put a face to the hilarious blog posts! Are you hot? please be hot. :D

Anonymous isheeta said...
btw AKA...... looking forward to a more zesty blog!!!!!!!!!!

Blogger youngMuslimah said...
I'm praying for you..

happy birthday!

Blogger 'liya said...
Happy birthday in advance as well! I'm really happy to see you back here, everyone needs time to cleanse and I think password protected posts are an excellent way to stuff out - if of course you give me the password!

P.S. Hehe, Haleem you're a nut (and as Isheeta points out, hopefully hot)! :D

Blogger Hash & Hana said...
hey u... ur only 25!! relax!!

Blogger AKA said...
Haleem - Thanks! I'll be back Dec 17th, staying until about Jan 20th. You're definitely coming next time!

Isheeta - I'll bring the zest ;)

Young Muslimah - Thank you (for both)

'liya - Thanks for the wishes. Of course you'd get the password!

Hana - haha...I think I've relaxed all too much up until now. I'm just comfortable now. "Only" 25? Oy...if I could even tell you the things I hear from people now...

Anonymous Salacious Samosa said...
Well I've sorta embelished in that fact! Ha! Don't get to carried away with my advice. But you are my inspiration for moderation!

By the way, activate the 'comments' for wordpress. You can't comment so far.

Lots of love,

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